Sorry for not saying anything after that. I was contemplating but i got reminded of the many times when i regretted saying something after i said it.

I'm not good at consoling. I'm not the type whom you can get much console out of.

My good friend once said this a long time ago, that i'm a person who will say things straight and honest to you. It's not going to sound nice. Neither do i guarantee it won't hurt. But it will be the truth. I'm not the kind of person who sugarcoats my words just because they will sound nicer.

Perhaps it's my upbringing. I don't remember getting much consoling when shit happens. Most of the time it's nevermind, try harder next time. To me, the 'try harder next time' struck harder than the 'nevermind'. It's always ... less of the dealing with the emotions, more of the providence of solutions. Hence, i was primed in the way to provide solutions when shit happens, and to deal with them without expecting any consolation from anyone. You can call me heartless, if you choose to see it that way.

I believe more in providing a solution and ways to achieve it, in this case the reattaining of happiness or the decrease of the feelings of sadness, rather than the all too often "don't worry, things will be fine". I do hope for understanding.

But more often than not, i get reminded by the people around me that there's always an emotional aspect of humans which we all have to deal with. It's not all about logic and outcomes, and to think i'm studying psychology. Shucks.

Trust me it's not easy. I would have said anything, but it will definitely jeopardize what i have now. To me, a relationship is a relationship. If it works, stick real hard to it. If it really doesn't, say too bad and move on.