I am convinced that i am not an easy to person to get along with.
Do not get close to me because when you do, the norm of reciprocity sets in and also, i will treat you as how i see good friends should treat each other, ie. Do away with all the formalities and unneccessities(if there's such a thing). And when it does, i am usually expecting very high returns. Not to even say i am very mean. I don't wait for your food to come and i will eat mine first because if yours come first, i will want you to eat yours first.
Being good friends also means being real straight. Maybe you can say i should be more tactful, but that's like beating around the bush.
When we were at Gelare, and knowing that Meiling's birthday is this friday, somehow i know i won't see her(now i know they are planning a dinner), i told her that i will treat her to ice cream. But my ice cream waffle came, and fyi, i don't like hot food that's gone cold or basically food that isn't what they ought to be... so i wanted to eat my nice frozen ice cream then, and i didn't want to go to the counter and pay for her ice cream, i just pass her the money and tell her to go and buy.
Weird? Awkward?
Sure it's like 'abnormal'... but i think it's very utilitarianism... it does benefit everyone at the end, no? I want to feel good that at least i've done my part for her birthday, and she won't be unhappy about having an extra ice cream... even though she did voice that it's a bit paiseh... but who isnt... just don't be paiseh with me...
Maybe you can say it's kind of insincere. Welllz... in a way it is... like giving her money to buy ice cream and then throwing the whole concept of buying a present out of the window is definitely easy... but doesn't sincerity come from the heart? And moreover, i believe i only see her once a week and that's every tuesday...
Again, you might say i can always take some time out and go and look for her present... but there isn't much time i've got... exams are in 2 weeks. Then you will say... ahhhh insincere...
Haha... looks like i am fighting a losing case here... =)
Do not get close to me because when you do, the norm of reciprocity sets in and also, i will treat you as how i see good friends should treat each other, ie. Do away with all the formalities and unneccessities(if there's such a thing). And when it does, i am usually expecting very high returns. Not to even say i am very mean. I don't wait for your food to come and i will eat mine first because if yours come first, i will want you to eat yours first.
Being good friends also means being real straight. Maybe you can say i should be more tactful, but that's like beating around the bush.
When we were at Gelare, and knowing that Meiling's birthday is this friday, somehow i know i won't see her(now i know they are planning a dinner), i told her that i will treat her to ice cream. But my ice cream waffle came, and fyi, i don't like hot food that's gone cold or basically food that isn't what they ought to be... so i wanted to eat my nice frozen ice cream then, and i didn't want to go to the counter and pay for her ice cream, i just pass her the money and tell her to go and buy.
Weird? Awkward?
Sure it's like 'abnormal'... but i think it's very utilitarianism... it does benefit everyone at the end, no? I want to feel good that at least i've done my part for her birthday, and she won't be unhappy about having an extra ice cream... even though she did voice that it's a bit paiseh... but who isnt... just don't be paiseh with me...
Maybe you can say it's kind of insincere. Welllz... in a way it is... like giving her money to buy ice cream and then throwing the whole concept of buying a present out of the window is definitely easy... but doesn't sincerity come from the heart? And moreover, i believe i only see her once a week and that's every tuesday...
Again, you might say i can always take some time out and go and look for her present... but there isn't much time i've got... exams are in 2 weeks. Then you will say... ahhhh insincere...
Haha... looks like i am fighting a losing case here... =)
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