The cognitive theories are invented by a group of logical people.
The behaviorists are a bunch of selfish and egoistic people.
The psychoanalytic theories are mostly products of horny people.

I think many of you have seen this on tv before ... the advert for rainie yang's new album ...

Watch the mass dance part ... it's the new Great Singapore Workout!

I need to learn how to handle setbacks better.

Wah perfect answer for the fix i got into awhile back ... got this from the Life-Span Development textbook.

SOCIOEMOTIONAL SELECTIVITY THEORY

This theory states that older adults deliberately withdraw from social contact with individuals peripheral to their lives while they maintain or increase contact with close friends and family members with whom they have had enjoyable relationships. This selective narrowing of social interaction maximizes positive emotional experiences and minimizes emotional risks as individuals become older.

It also focuses on the types of goals(sounds familiar?) that individuals are motivated to achieve. It states that two important classes of goals are 1)knowledge-related and 2)emotional. This theory emphasizes that the trajectory of motivation for knowledge-related goals starts relatively high in the early years of life, peaking in adolescence and early adulthood, and then declining in middle and late adulthood.

The emotional trajectory is high during infancy and early childhood, declines from middle childhood through early adulthood, and increases in middle and late adulthood.

One of the main reasons given for these changing trajectories in knowledge-related and emotional-related goals involves the perception of TIME. When time is perceived as open-ended, as it is when individuals are younger, people are more strongly motivated to pursue information, even at the cost of emotional satisfaction. But as older adults perceive that they have less time left in their lives, they are motivated to spend more time pursuing emotional satisfaction.

This is my baby cousin. I made her cried last night.


Mugger-of-a-me last night brought a stats textbook to my grandma's birthday celebration.




I am going to need lots of energy for the next 2 weeks. Full speed on!!!

GAMBATEHNEH!

Has anyone coined the term for Facebook addiction yet, or the crave to log on to FB and continously check out its application?

Okay. I hereby coin the term "Facebook syndrome".

It is used to describe anyone who is in a way 'addicted' to FB, logs on every now and then, adds application and plays games on FB. FB is constantly on his mind and has became a part of his life.

Date: 24th Nov 2007 12.36am

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I am so going to patent it la.


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Aiya give me a chance la... all the whatever psych terms and theories all invented already. Young punks like us got no chance to invent or coin anything.

I didn't have anything to blog just now when i logged in, so i signed out and went back to my studies. But now something triggered off my thoughts, so there.

At the place where i work, i often struggle internally as to whether i should be the nice guy and make everyone loves me (trust me i am fully capable of that), or that as what the experienced people have told me, in order for them to truly learn, you got to show them the ugly side of people.

They can have a jolly good time laugh laugh play play and learn nothing.

I am glad you learnt something. =)

There are too many nice people out that already. It's time for me to play the Devil's advocate. Isn't that what a Gemini is good at, having a full range of extremities, sometimes good sometimes bad. Always unpredictable. (Sometimes i laugh at how juvenile my posts sound, but then again, i am being juvenile now.)

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I was talking to my mum and sis the other day during dinner. I claimed how much of a paranoid person i am, and i told my mum i think i got yi xin bing. Always suspecting, always not giving my 100% trust.

I've learnt much about not giving all of what i have.

And i guess... maybe now when i do things to hurt and thus distance myself, it will save me. A defense mechanism eh?

I don't know. I don't understand my thoughts many a times. Like many of the findings and theories in the textbooks, they are often lacking in replication or insufficient evidence to truly support them. (Then i wonder why the hell did they write that down in the book.)

But now i realise, it's another of those all-too-similar scenarios. Many people had developed close friendships with me before getting hurt eventually. I can think of 4 names right away. And we seldom talk now.

Reason for all? My lack of commitment to them. And perhaps a bit of a lack of understanding.

I think it's a problem of mine. Commitment issues.

For the rest that didn't get burnt too much and still stay close, they learn and understand that I need my own time. My own time to do my own stuff. My own time which i am free from commitments and responsibilities. My own time when i turn into a very selfish person.

But i think they all know that, sooner or later, maybe 2 days, maybe a week, maybe 2 weeks, i will give them my time. They understand i have my concept of time and that i plan my schedule. It's the same for me, how i know the cathigh guys, or the cj bunch that they have times whereby they are so damn busy, but deep down you know that they will set time aside to meet up.

Mug-ka-lao-sai!

Some stuff about studying.

Sit in front of someone whose feet stinks to the core. You won't ever fall asleep. You would just feel like buying 10 air fresheners from the co-op downstairs.

The way Central Lib fills up every morning at 10am is crazy. Worse than the past 2 sems.

Plenty of eye-candies around! =p

My Jay Chou song has been on repeat for 132 times.

It's been raining pretty heavily the past few days.

I should set up a multi-adaptor renting shop in the library. So many latops. So few powerpoints.

这感觉　已经不对　我努力在挽回
一些些　应该体贴的感觉　我没给
你嘟嘴　许的愿望很卑微　在妥协
是我忽略　你不过要人陪

这感觉　已经不对　我最後才了解
一页页　不忍翻阅的情节　你好累
你默背　为我掉过几次泪　多憔悴
而我心碎你受罪　你的美　我不配



Can i say the female lead is damn chio?

Petrol prices increasing like nobody's business!!

Eh to those oil countries... do something about it leh ...

Last night saw a damn chio girl. But she's bo-gay and around 5 years old? Haha... at least i think she will grow up to be damn chio.

Okay back to mugging! Mug mug mug!

After talking to my mum, i admit that there are definitely better ways to solve the problem.

Sorry for the selfish behaviour.

It's been a thought-provoking night. And i guess as people grow, their priorities change.

But i admit totally, i've been selfish and haven't thought about others. Well, my personality is as such and i believe in first loving yourself before you can love others. Yet, the more i think about it, i don't know why am i thinking of this as an excuse and that what was being argued or hurt about was merely a clash of personalities.

Lately i haven't been that ... nice, or outgoing or "big-hearted". I stopped giving lifts to people who are out of the way and i stopped giving treats, or doing small things that i know will make people happy. I can't really pinpoint the exact reason, but i believe it is due to several reasons.

Do you know that petrol prices have gone up by damn a lot? Is it 1.5 or 1.6 now? 60 bucks a week isn't cheap. But that's not the point, cos i choose to drive.

My mum's been talking to me about my sis' uni education, and indirectly mine. Going overseas isn't cheap either. I've got dreams to live for. I've got priorities in life. I got to think of the future.

I can't be the teenager boy who has tonnes of time to hang out with friends 24/7, nor do i feel good spending money i didn't earn. I am 22.

And more and more people around me have been bringing up their marriage plans. I don't know how much it costs, 50k? 80k? 100k? Do you and your parents have that kind of extra money?

I don't know why i brought up those topics at Starbucks, but i guess i got to think of the money i need to spend in the next 5-10 years. I don't know if you all had thought about it.

So why all this talk about money? Cos for me, i think a good education at least will sufficiently, statistically, provide me with a higher chance of landing a better paying job. Of course there are the other factors such as fate, luck, the people you know, etc. But right now as a student, i think i know my role.

Notice i've been turning down a lot of 'chilling' sessions lately. I even proclaimed to Bryant that chilling is a waste of time. Sure, if you asked me to chill after the exams, anytime, anyday when i am free, i will be there. Not 2 weeks before the exams.

I am the in-your-face kind of person. Or maybe i am like that when i've got too much on my hands. Why in-your-face? Cos it saves time and things are solved straight to the point. I think one disadvantage is that i often get misunderstood as shooting my mouth off. That's 2 entirely different matter. The latter is saying the wrong stuff, usually at the wrong time. Whereas the other, i would like to clarify, is just making decisions MORE PROMPTLY and in a more decisive manner.

We sat in the room, and even much more before that, deciding what's the plan. Once again, it's alright if i've got lots of time. But currently i don't. Notice it's the same as that night after Terence's birthday. We don't know what to do don't know where to go. And i am the driver. It's not easy you know.

I could just decide not to do anything after dinner and come home both times, and i don't feel that sad. Really. Cos there are much sadder things out there.

So. We checked the timings and some discussion later, still no decision made. And they said to leave the room and pick her up before deciding. Now i really hate that. Cos i can so predict stoning in the car not deciding anything again.

Hence i told them straight up what i think. I don't think this is so-called "not thinking about others' feelings". I just said that is the movie i want to watch and if we are watching the other one, i don't feel like waiting until 950pm. Unless she is coming then alright i will go.

But i know she won't. For God's sake, it's her birthday. I thought we are gathering for her birthday? So what now, we finished celebrating and we 4 can go happy hour ourselves? Anyway a sidenote to ML: stop thinking or feeling bad that you made me/us come out. Trust me, I don't do things against my own wishes. I do them happily and willingly. =)

So, in layman's terms, i just "told them what i wanted". IF these things had hurt you, there are much worse things out there. Maybe i've been too immersed in the camps culture that i do, that you got to be strong emotionally.

I admit, i often think of how people would think if I am them, and indirectly link these "my-behaviours" to them. Since he had watched the movie, and we haven't, and we all wanted to, then why not we just go and watch it ourselves? If i am him, i would urge all of you to go watch. I am totally fine with all of you going out and having a whale of a time without me, because ... i don't know why. I just thought that's the right thing to do?

I mean, it's a movie i've watched, and all of you haven't and want to, then by all means go ahead and watch. I won't feel sad and insist on watching something else. Haha okay maybe not when it's meant to be an outing in the holidays la. It's at busy times like these when i know i can come home and study.

Maybe it's really a different form of lifestyle. I've got a real life example in my sister of a mugger. I don't study 1/10 as hard as her. But why don't i? Why can't i?

Grades matter hell lot to me you know? I NEED to pull up my CAP if not i can kiss my honours goodbye. I am in a field where i should go for postgrad studies. I don't know about you all.

Okay i realised that the changes might be too big. But well Geminis are unpredictable mah. I am not the study consistently throughout the sem kind. I am the "ok it's 3 weeks to exams, time to turn it on fullspeed". And it was i did. I woke up before 9 every single day to go to school to mug. And if you all know, i've had fatigue problems during the start of the sem, probably due to the super-slack lifestyle in melb. =p But when i set my mind to do something, i will do it dutifully.

Ah well... if this is too hurtful, learn to ignore.

I am like that. Straight up in your face. =)

"A true voyeur, almost always a man, does not find it particularly exciting to watch a woman who is undressing for his special benefit. The element of risk seems important, for the voyeur is excited by the anticipation of how the woman would react if she knew he was watching. As with all categories of illegal behavior, prevaluence is difficult to assess since most illegal activities are not reported to the police. Indeed, people with voyeurism are more often charged with loitering rather than with peeping itself." (Kaplan & Kreuger, 1997)

Lol. Loitering. Sounds so ... ... juvenile.

Anyway since i am studying sexual disorders now, i kind of thought about what was said last night. The Teh Nees had a gathering cum Yenmei's 20th birthday celebration at Riverside Indonesian Restaurant. Healthy turnout again =)

Had a good time catching up with the freshies before going to TCC. The topic of "tong ju"(living together before marriage) was brought up, and i was explaining to them living together is a whole new level, and that in my opinion, it should be encouraged if possible. And thus relating to all these sexual disorders, i was thinking tong ju will allow you to know if you partner has any sexual sadism or masochism disorder =p What if don't know then suddenly he whips out a pair of handcuffs. A bit off but ya... =)

Haha by the way, FYI these disorders are only diagnosed when it causes marked distress or impairment in functioning.

Been a tough week. But i am glad it's over. And surprisingly i only went to school for lessons on Mon and Fri, but i was out the rest of the days as well. Had my ab psy presentation on schizo on mon which we got 9/10. Don't know what's the average but i guess it should be roughly around the same.

Tues went back to sch macs for proj meeting. Finished up much of the draft for PF2201. Was too tired to wake up for 9am lect on wed so went straight to velocity for consultation regarding the draft. Thurs woke up late and had stupid jam which caused me to be late for PD/APD meeting. Then went back to school after that to study until 430pm before the lib closed.

Went down to Marina Sq to walk around cos there was the BPCC gathering, primarily to celebrate chonghao and jianxian's birthday.



Good to see so many people turn up and had a great time catching up with them. Too bad people like Colin, Chris, Jinhan and Sebast couldn't come cos of exams. We had dinner at Dian Xiao Er and the duck is really good. Highly recommended.

Then the guys went for Saw IV which i didn't join them. Didn't watch the first 3 and i don't particular enjoy mutilation.

Friday had SW presentation (last of it all!!) and then handed up the assignment 2 for PF2201. Only left 1 more stats paper!!

Last night the lacoste people went to Oosh to celebrate Terence's 23rd birthday. Dude's got a gf and i just found out! Rah~

Anyway the place is damn atas la. Expensive food in small portions. But thanks to ter for treating us desserts and drinks.



Missed the 1st half of the Man Utd vs Arsenal match... but we went down to catch the 2nd half. As i've said it a couple of times, "The whole world rejoiced on the 82nd minute, and all hearts sank 9 minutes later." Haiz.

We would had felt better if it remained 1-1 but Ronaldo's goal gave us hope that we could win. Gallas' goal was simply cruel.

Life has inevitably became monotonous lately. End of Week 11 and another couple more before the Finals. Strangely, a few of my mid terms and projects are due kind of late into the semester. That explains the seemingly abundance of time i had earlier on.

I can so predict that i am going to be get a little stressed next week, particularly over the PF assignment.

I got woken up by this Indian guy, whom according to my memory, has called me a few times before and it's all wrong number. Surprisingly this morning when he called, i still could talk to him in my groggy state. He said that i called him last night when the only person i called was Serene at 6pm. Bloody hell... always cannot see clearly the number is it, or always press wrongly.

Had my last tutorials of the semester this week. PF1101 ended quite emotionally. I think most of us had grew attached to Mr. Ravish and in a way, this is the first tutorial class that make me feel the closeness and warmth between the classmates.

Happy birthday TERENCE!!! You are damn old la! =p